September 12th, 2009 §
I had a bit of a stress meltdown at the end of this last week. Actually, the week of home schooling was a reasonably good one. I think that the added stress of Andrew being in job hell, working crazy and unpredictable hours, not being home pretty much at all during waking hours (and many sleeping ones) just put me on edge. Home schooling is a wonderful experience in many ways so far, and I can already see the bond between Alli and I deepening and some of the everyday struggles between us easing as a result of this new sense of partnership. I am also becoming more aware of the tremendous opportunity we have to both work through some of the challenges Alli still faces and really engage some of the amazing strengths she has – both areas that I think aren’t possible to do under the confines of school. But it’s also still a huge adjustment for both of us. For me, without a partner in parenting this last week of Andrew’s work insanity, the 24/7 intensity of being teacher and parent felt incredibly heavy. Andrew and I often move as one in our marriage partnership, and we haven’t had much time to connect on this new experience – really bad timing with this big transition in our lives and the crises at his workplace. It’s also caused us to fall behind on a lot of non school-related stuff at home, which tends to stress me out as well.
Of course, both Alli and I are still adjusting from being a part of a greater school community – Alli seems to have adjusted to this easily (as she makes connections with others far more easily than I do); for me, it feels right now a bit like I have taken on a new job but without coworkers for chatting, sharing and commiserating. We’re continuing to work on developing relationships with the home school community, and are making headway, although this takes time. Classes are starting to kick in little by little and will be in full swing over the next week or two, so I know that will increase our sense of community. In general, I have found area home schooling families to be very generous with the sharing of resources and support. But it’s also a group where everyone’s philosophies and approaches are different, and folks tend to be somewhat protective of talking about the specifics of what they do (and also a little bit in who they allow into their already well-functioning close networks of friends). I’m used to being incredibly open, and like the process of sharing this kind of detail and bouncing ideas off others as part of the support process – something that I haven’t necessarily found a group of peers yet to do that with quite to the degree that I’m craving. While there are many things I like about the flexibility of our 1:1 time, I still harbor a desire for a bit more co-operative schooling model, and I haven’t really come across the right fit and interest level for that yet either.
Anyhow, I’m hopeful that as Andrew’s work settles down and we continue to find our groove on this new path, things will settle into a good place. I am looking forward to getting a sense of how things feel with our new schedule of classes, and have noted already that once I get a sense of things I need to devote some energy to finding more time and space for “me” in all of this.
Balance. I think this week just felt a little unbalanced for me.
But really, it wasn’t such a bad week. We had a great field trip to the Museum of Science and Industry on Tuesday, and Andrew was miraculously able to join us with only a few urgent phone interruptions, although he still pretty much worked a full day, working well into the night upon our return home (long story, one which has me ready to unionize the IT field). I’m so glad we waited to hit the Harry Potter exhibit (nice exhibit, btw) until school was in session – made the whole museum a much more manageable place for Alli and I, both crowd-phobes. Alli no longer refers to it as “the loud museum” – she had pretty much the run of everything she wanted to do, and had a great time. We came home with some owl pellets that we’ll probably be dissecting this week in an effort to see what kinds of things owls eat. Sweet.
We continue to forge along in Math, and I’m blown away by how strong Alli’s thinking skills in the number theory arena are. She really gets some pretty advanced, well beyond her years concepts, and it makes for some really fun problem-solving and discussion. Still, there are some mechanics we need to hit on so that she can do some of the more advanced things that she’s craving to do. So we’re working on things like building more automaticity in basic operations to support her in that. We continue to play a lot of games, and we’ve had 2 sessions of the multi-age Math Games sessions I’m running weekly for a small group at the public library. That has been going well, and I’ve gotten great feedback from the families participating. I enjoy supporting the kids as they learn to work together, and it’s a great experience for Alli too. She’s exerting more patience and more willingness to be a mentor to other kids, which is a lovely thing to watch develop. Her competitive need to trounce others when playing them in games? Well, that is still a work in progress…
We’ve also mainly kept up with some form of writing every day, and continue to focus on editing skills. This week Alli also created a spelling list from words she’d accumulated (she jots down words she comes across that she either doesn’t know or wants to learn more about or wants to challenge herself with), and she had to be able to provide definitions for them as well as take a little spelling quiz (the latter was at her request). Despite her strong spelling skills, she does still struggle (and resist) looking things up in the dictionary (I think dealing with alphabetical order poses a challenge to her still), so I’ve added a little bit of focus and support in this area for her. We’ve also continued a lot of reading, silent and aloud, and have started the book for our upcoming Mother/Daughter book club meeting (Wednesday Wars), the content of which is occasionally a bit above Alli (she’s just under the general age range for the book club girls – plus the book is set in the late ’60’s with several Vietnam War references), but it’s well written and funny and with some support and extra discussion, she is engaged.
Alli’s also been working on some crafts that she’d like to sell for a homeschool craft fair in December, so she’s put some of her planning, sewing and crochet skills to work again this week. Choir started too, and piano resumes Monday, with art class starting the following week – so I’m glad that the arts are feeling more integrated into her day. I have officially committed to resuming my Halloween seamstress duties (skipped a few years by buying costumes), so I guess I’ll be having to nurture my rather lacking skills soon to come up with some form of vampiress costume.
Thursday we went to an area nature center with the goal of trying some geocaching, but as the equipment was down, we had to settle for checking out an “Explorer’s Backpack” for a nature hike with a great new friend/fellow homeschooling family that both Alli and I connect with. Alli and Noelle were given complete responsibility for navigating the guide and map, and got us all back to the finish line with only one minor directional debate (and a fair number of insect bites)- a productive afternoon of exploring!
Exploring at Emily Oaks
Our project this week was inspired by our visit to the Science & Industry museum, yet one more place where Alli got absorbed in an exhibit about outer space and demonstrated her obsession with size, distance and scale. A perfect opportunity for some integrated learning! While discussing whether we could construct our own scale model of the solar system, I offered up the task of finding out using real numbers, and Alli was all in. With little support, she was able to find the diameters and distances from the sun for all of the planets (she included Pluto, but isn’t sure whether she really wants to include it – an ongoing debate that makes me giggle every time), and she input all of the information into an Excel spreadsheet. I gave her a little help in then setting up a formula to convert the large mile measurements into smaller centimeter scale measurements, in such a way that she could simply play around with the scale factor and it would recalculate all of the formulas for her. She really got this concept, and could predict with surprising accuracy what would happen to the numbers when she changed the scale up or down. We then got sidetracked by her trying to prove or disprove a fact that she’d taken in from a book that she read – that Jupiter was almost 1.5 times bigger than all of the rest of the planets combined – because we had built a “how much bigger/smaller than Earth” column from just the diameter that wasn’t showing this (her quote: “Excel must be wrong then, because how could they publish a book that had something wrong in it?” – LOVED that!). Anyhow, I had to go a bit above her head finally for this one and build for her a “volume” formula for spheres, but we ultimately were able to support the books assertion, and my child could not have been more delighted with herself.
We moved on to reach the conclusion that we could not use the same scale for the size of the planets as we used for the distance from the sun and come up with a model that would fit on our street block. Conclusion: it is NOT possible to build an actual scale model of the solar system in which the planets would all be even as big as a pinhead but the distances could be contained to even several street blocks. An awesome piece of learning, and a lot of fun! We might still do some form of model at some point, but we learned that we’d have to use a different scale for planet size than for planet distance, and we learned that the exhibits we’ve seen at museums thus far have all had to do that as well.
Solar System Scale Worksheet
One more little artifact – I found this later in the week and realized that Alli must have written it just after she watched Obama’s speech to kids on Tuesday. She told me she wanted to ‘take notes’, but apparently it morphed into this. So cute. (Btw, the ‘principle’ she’s referring to is one of the 7 principles affirmed by Unitarian Universalism – the adult version has to do with the “inherent worth and dignity of each person” – Alli knows it as “we’re all equal and valuable”). I find it so interesting to see what she takes away from various experiences in her life – referring here to both Obama’s speech and her experiences in UU religious education:
September 8th, 2009 §
Nothing earth-shattering to report today. Knowing that I tend to struggle with re-entering “life as usual” after regular weekends, let alone extended time off, I harbored a little anxiety about jumping back in to week 2 of home schooling after a 3-day weekend. Especially one where Andrew was still pretty heavily tied to work (although he was physically at home) – I was feeling more than a little burned out on all things parenting.
Am pleased to report that despite my post-weekend sluggishness, we have managed to jump back in. Looking forward to science class at a local nature center, which kicks in next Tuesday, and Critter Crew, which won’t get underway for another few weeks. For lack of a more thoughtful or humorous entry, I’ll instead share exactly what we’ve done, post-breakfast:
- We checked in on our new “pet” caterpillar (cabbage looper), cleaned its container of voluminous frass (new vocab word – caterpillar poop!) and gave it fresh herb (and one not-so-fresh kale) leaves
- Alli data entered and published a blog entry that she’d hand-written and edited on Friday (she has now learned how to search the web for images and get them into her blog)
- We completed the equivalent of almost 3 math lessons (still mostly all concepts Alli has seen before, but many of the Everyday Math approaches are new to Alli)
- We learned and played another new math game that Alli now loves (“Name that Number” – we modified it to include basic multiplication and division and challenged ourselves to use as many cards as possible in each number sentence)
- We made and ate lunch
- Alli had about 45 minutes of computer time (when I handled some work-related issues and a short conference call), during which she attempted to find out how to identify caterpillar gender (no success on this yet), did a few sessions in Type to Learn, and about 25 minutes of Spanish.
- We read independently for about 45 minutes (Alli mainly elected to revisit an old favorite – The Number Devil, reading the “funny parts” to me aloud).
- We watched a C-Span video of Obama’s back to school message, talked about parts we found interesting (she, of course, loved the Harry Potter reference and expressed thanks for not home schooling at 4:45 in the morning). We also lightly discussed the controversy that precluded the speech.
- Alli’s presently pursuing her latest craft idea, making her own “ugly doll-styled” stuffed animals from felt. She’s presently working on an owlish creature, and is testing a new sewing method I proposed before deciding on how she is going to make a bunch of them for a little craft fair/sale that is planned for early December. I’m hoping we can get outside shortly and take in a little of this glorious fall-ish day before heading off to Alli’s modern dance class.
Tomorrow, we’re off to the Museum of Science and Industry and to the Harry Potter Exhibit!
September 4th, 2009 §
So we’re wrapping up our first “easing in” week, and I have to say that overall, things have been going better than I expected. Alli has been a willing and enthusiastic partner in this effort, and I’m reminded of how wonderful it is to be teaching and learning again. It’s been a slightly challenging week for finding personal time for me, especially since Andrew’s been in crisis/long hours mode at work (to the extent that he hasn’t been home since YESTERDAY morning!!), and I have to say I look forward to doing this without feeling like a single parent when the workday is over.
Alli told me yesterday, unsolicited, that “she was learning a lot more than she thought she would be at school.” I asked her to elaborate, and she shared that she really liked having someone who was always willing to answer her questions and who didn’t ignore her, and that she really liked having everything “at her level”. She also said that she has a hard time focusing when there are lots of people around her and kids making lots of noise. She’s been fortunate to have pretty small classes for her school years to date (13-17 kids), and while she’s learned to manage it, I know she has still really struggled with auditory sensitivity in that size group – I can only imagine what that would feel like for her in the more typical class size range.
I was glad for both park day yesterday and our math games group starting up this morning – and continue to look forward to more classes with others kicking in. I do love our 1:1 time, but we both really need to be with others on a regular basis in order to not feel isolated. We are so fortunate to have connected early on with one family that has a 10-yr-old homeschooling this year, and we continue to develop relationships that I’m hopeful will also be consistent presences in our world. I’m also realizing that I need to get back on the horse in arranging playdates with Alli’s friends who are in school – hoping they are reaching a routine level where we can do some of that soon so that Alli remains connected.
Schedule-wise, I can’t say we’ve really followed things all that precisely (not that I expected to) this week, but I have used it to guide our work. I already find myself sometimes wishing there were more hours in the day; I think I need to relax a little more and realize that we have all year! Alli is most receptive to having a few goal projects in the first morning hours, then I think we have sort of worked with her mood and energy levels and what she’s most interested in as a driving force for some of the rest of the day. I’m seeing that she could happily do math for most of the day, so I’ve had to provide some direction to give us some balance (although I have indulged her enthusiasm by allowing us to go heavier on the math on occasion). Even if we veer “off schedule”, and I can’t say that we’ve had a day yet where we’ve really been “on schedule”, I refer back to it as a touchstone to guide us in eventually covering most of the bases. Things we’ve stumbled into this week have presented a lot of wonderful opportunities for integrated learning, and I’ve been delighted at how easily we’ve been able to already start weaving across traditional ‘subjects’. This is something I have struggled with feeling free to do as a teacher in today’s public school system.
September 3rd, 2009 §
Alli seems very content so far with how things are going, but it’s hard not to notice that she still refers to things that she used to do at school in the present tense (as in, “we do something like that in Mr. so-and-so’s class!”). Although I feel that things are going well for us at this early juncture, it’s hard for me not to feel some sense of loss and sadness about the things that she enjoyed about school, and the friends that I imagine she misses seeing every day. I have worked hard to let go of my anger and disappointment in a school that broke my heart, and at a public school system that I don’t think would do a whole lot better, but there are still moments where it trickles out and I feel sad for us, for her, and for all of the children who are not getting their sparks nurtured so that they grow up to become thoughtful, fulfilled adults.
Those feelings aside, yesterday was a good day. Wednesdays will normally be our ‘project’/’field trip’ days, but as Alli is still a bit under the weather and we’re still getting a rhythm going, we took it easy. We did some writing (Alli published a blog entry that she’d edited the previous day), watched a fabulous animated version of If the World Were a Village that led to some great thinking and discussion – mathematical and social — and also led towards us choosing a new recipient for some Kiva funds that had been paid back to us and were ready for re-lending. Spent a few hours in the afternoon at the library, where Alli got sucked in by a Guinness World Records book and did a little more reading in The Journey while I found some more great books to bring home (including the kids’ version of Three Cups of Tea, which I’m in the middle of presently – so cool to be working with both! And there’s a young reader’s edition too that we’ll have to explore next!). Then a short playdate to meet a new friend that we’ll be transporting to choir, followed by a short grocery trip (Alli is now going to be tracking the price of milk across stores and across the next few months as part of the little money/economics study we’re pursuing). The two giant wall maps I ordered from a sale at Rand McNally arrived – now I have to figure out which wall in our home gets sacrificed for the cause. We ended the day reading One Hen before bedtime, a wonderful tie-in to having re-lent some micro-loan funds earlier in the day.
It occurs to me that I’m learning as much as I’m teaching on this journey…
September 1st, 2009 §
Alli wanted to write a problem for me to solve.
“Matt has 1 friend coming over for a birthday party. His friend told him an order. Place a mark using his order to cut his pizza into pieces for him and his friend.
Matt: one piece with two medium pepperonis, a little bit of cheese, no pepper, and make it a small piece.
Friend: large piece with 3 peppers, 2 pepperonis, and cheese. ”
September 1st, 2009 §
So, a bit of a slow start yesterday, as Alli came down with a full-on head cold and was pretty sacked out by head congestion and a constant battle with snot. She looked pretty darn pathetic for most of the morning – I was imagining how awful her first day of school would have been had I sent her (our local public schools started today). First cold for awhile for her, not sure where it came from – but made a mental note to myself to call the doc to arrange for the flu mist for her in the next month or so.
She made it to basketball class, though – a testament to how much she’s enjoying it. I wasn’t sure that she’d make it thru – and braced myself for a meltdown. Coach J noticed she was under the weather and offered her the choice to rest/sit out whenever she needed. This was such a great strategy for her; she sat out for a few moments, but very few – felt so secure about just having the choice. I reflected on the things that bothered me about the gym teacher she’s had at school (he was the ‘buck it up’ variety) – he would never have done such a simple, supportive thing.
No Spanish yesterday – hard for her to talk with a sore throat (part of it is speech-based), and I didn’t see a need to push it. She did do some handwriting, editing and response journaling. I read Harry Potter aloud for a little over an hour (we’re finally just about finished with the first book – lots of discussion breaks), then we ran some errands and had some great conversation and teachable moments along the way. One of the pieces I gave her to edit was something about space exploration that referenced a spacecraft from Earth that was due to be near Pluto by 2016. Her initial response was “why would we care about Pluto anymore if it’s not even a planet?” This led to a long discussion about what we could still learn, and an even longer discussion about the Pluto planetary debate. All while purchasing pet food and picking up a package from the post office.
Not a bad start, all things considered.
This morning, she woke up with more of a bounce, and by 9:00 has already completed a few problem-solving projects I gave her (from a cool e-book). One task was to choose the best geometric shape for designing a rabbit hutch, draw it out on paper and then construct it with cardboard, explain why it was a good choice for a rabbit hutch, then explain other things that shape is commonly used for. Alli’s cubical version is both constructed and already well-populated with bunny puffballs – she’s now wrestling with 12 popsicle sticks to see how many ways she can create 4 equally-sized animal pens with at least 1 connected fence. This one is frustrating her a little – which means it’s a good challenge, but one that I need to go provide some guidance for. On to day 2!
August 30th, 2009 §
It’s not lost on me that most of Alli’s peers are heading back to school this week. It’s a weird feeling, not having done the obligatory school supply list shopping, inventorying clothing and such. There is a small sense of being left behind a community which we used to be a part of, all of whom are heading down a familiar path. At the moment, though, the predominant sensation is one of relief. That we aren’t being thrust into a new schedule not of our own making, that we won’t have the daily morning “how to get the kid dressed and fed and out the door in far less time than she is really capable of without pressure and resulting meltdowns” routine, that we won’t be replacing dozens of reusable containers that never make it home in the lunchbox, …
And so it begins, but without the bang. We’re going to be easing into things a bit more this week. Alli’s “inbox” is already well-stocked with a variety of things for her to choose from for her early morning work, including some editing and handwriting practice, some higher-level thinking challenges, some math problems involving place value and inequalities, her regular journal and a response journal we exchange with each other. She’s already begun working with Rosetta Stone Spanish, and we should be jumping into math more heavily, both together and with the games/problem-solving group that I’m running that is set to start on Friday. So far we have 6-8 kids lined up for that. I’m hoping we can hit the Harry Potter exhibit at the science & industry museum either this week or next – now that the crowds should be lighter, and I think we’re going to set some field trips up too relating to money. I need to start combing thru some of the science and history books I have checked out from the library to come up with some good places to start – and see what seems to spark Alli’s interest.
I’m curious to see how the plan of having her do some work independently first thing in the morning goes. She is a reasonably early riser who likes to take on projects when she gets up (although not so into the promptly getting dressed and brushing hair and teeth part, which she can hopefully do at a little more leisurely pace now). I am very much not the early riser, and it takes me a bit to get going in the mornings, so I’m hoping that the structure we laid out of independent work first will function for us both.
More to come as we make our way…
August 26th, 2009 §
So I’ve been thinking a lot about how to approach this year of homeschooling, from style, curriculum and schedule standpoints. As the parent and teacher here, I’m faced with unlimited possibilities – a wonderfully freeing and yet slightly overwhelming thing. Going in, I knew there were a number of things I wanted to address, including giving Alli as much freedom and responsibility as I feel she is able to handle. » Read the rest of this entry «
August 18th, 2009 §
So much of our family’s life for the past 5 or 6 years has been intermingled with the world of education – and it’s as difficult for me to figure out where to begin this post as it is for me to isolate where the journey that we’re on with regards to education really began. The short version has to do with my life-long love of both learning and teaching, and having decided to do a complete 180 of my career path to embrace that love, intermingled with our daughter having come of school age a few years back… and having reached several personal points of frustration with the current state of education along those two paths (mine and hers).
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July 13th, 2009 §
Alli has developed a tremendous interest in all things financial. She enjoys coming with on errands, and inspects and keeps every receipt I’m willing to part with. She is even starting to monitor our grocery spending (note to self: put Alli in charge of coupons). She pays attention to prices, and we’ve had many conversations that feel beyond her years about taxes and government spending.
During one of our last visits to PetSmart to pick up cat food and litter, she discovered joyfully that hamsters and rats were both well under the cajillion dollars she had imagined, and thought for a brief moment that she might be able to evade my ban on rodent pets by using her allowance savings to purchase one. This brought on a conversation about all of the other costs that she wasn’t tallying, including the ultimate price that would be paid by said poor creature when OUR NUTJOB CAT that has zero restraint DECIDES TO EAT THE THING.
I had forgotten to warn the Daddy about letting Alli linger long enough at a pet store to inspect prices, so she uncovered more revelations during their visit yesterday. She spent much of the day today waxing about why there was such a huge price range in birds (“Mommy, one was like $14.99 and one was like SIX HUNDRED DOLLARS!!!”).
But mostly she CAN’T STOP TALKING about finding a 15 cent (feeder) fish. While I initially thought she considered this the ultimate bargain, it turns out she found it quite disturbing.
“How is this POSSIBLE, Mommy? FIFTEEN CENTS!!!! FOR A LIVING CREATURE!!!! Shouldn’t a life be worth more than that?”
From the mouth of a babe. I have no counter-argument to offer.